This guidance is based on a solid, validated life-truth. If you take it seriously and work it for at least 90 days, you will see a… — I know the headline sounds like an infomercial, or maybe one of those sensational blurbs on the cover of a women’s magazine. I am trying to catch your attention as I want to share something with you I’ve seen truly transform marriages, including my own. This guidance is based on…

Among U.S. adults ages 50 and older, the divorce rate roughly doubled since the 1990s; among those 65 and older, the divorce rate roughly… — Have you seen these statistics? Among U.S. adults ages 50 and older, the divorce rate roughly doubled since the 1990s; among those 65 and older, the divorce rate roughly tripled. Among those who divorced in the past year, about one-third were in their prior marriage for at least 30 years…

I read this today. — I read this today. It’s easy to spot a red car when you’re looking for a red car. It’s easy to spot an opportunity when you’re always thinking of opportunity. It’s easy to spot reasons to be mad when you’re always thinking about being mad. You become what you constantly think about. Watch…

When folks realize you are counselor, this is a question you hear often. I suppose it’s like financial advisors being asked about the… — “Do you think we need counseling?” When folks realize you are counselor, this is a question you hear often. I suppose it’s like financial advisors being asked about the stock market and mechanics about what the noise under the hood might be. …

The art of accepting an apology — Author’s Note: I previously wrote a post on The Art of Apologizing in which I explained common misconceptions that damage our ability to effectively apologize. One of my readers suggested a follow-up post on how to accept an apology. …

Are you wishing your spouse would go to therapy with you? If so, you aren’t alone! I saw a statistic recently that said 90% of couples… — Are you wishing your spouse would go to therapy with you? If so, you aren’t alone! I saw a statistic recently that said 90% of couples that will divorce, will do so without having ever talked to a marriage therapist. Honestly, it blows my mind. …

Words matter. — Words matter. And the words we say to our spouse especially matter. It also matters how we say those words. The terms we choose, the mannerisms we use, the ways we express ourselves — every bit of communication between us — sets the tone for relationship. …

Holidays are tricky. For some of us, the holidays represent family time and fond memories. For others, however, this time of year is just… — Holidays are tricky. For some of us, the holidays represent family time and fond memories. For others, however, this time of year is just hard. We are reminded of the loved ones we’ve lost and relationships that are broken. …

Every week we see clients in The Marriage Place office who are dealing with a crisis in their relationship. They come looking for tools… — Last week I started this Marriage Crisis series by unpacking 3 different categories I use to describe the various types of crises we find in marriages. If you missed that post, you can catch up here. Every week we see clients in The Marriage Place office who are dealing with…